All parents want the best for their children. We envision a future for them that is full of happiness, success and healthy relationships. But, having a fulfilling relationship may feel like a daunting task and maybe even impossible…when picturing your screaming, tantruming toddler!
What if I told you that there is a simple, yet powerful way to set your child up for success? You see, the power of attachment can lay the groundwork for all those important neural pathways in your wee one’s head that leads to happiness, security and relationships.
“When the roots are deep, there is no reason to fear the wind” – Chinese Proverb
Here are some tips to get you and your little one onto the attachment path:
- Respond to and comfort your child when they are sick, hurt or feeling upset including feelings of sadness, feeling frightened or even lonely.
- Mirror your child’s emotions. When your child smiles, smile back. When your child cries, respond with concern.
- Have lots of physical contact. If you have a baby, wear them in a carrier, snuggle with them, and even have a bath with them; this includes Dads too! And if you have a toddler or older child, physical contact is still very important, so find ways to include lots of snuggle time into your day.
- Put down your electronic device and give your child attention instead. Find ways to give them specific praise, and play with them often. Do and enjoy things together.
- If you share parenting, try to match responses and routines with your partner. This ensures predictability in your child’s daily life.
Practicing attachment equips your child with a sense of security that gives them a strong sense of autonomy to explore their world.
Does practicing attachment ‘spoil’ your child?
Some people often caution newbie parents about the ‘dangers’ of responding to children when they are upset. Contrary to some beliefs however, practicing attachment equips your child with a sense of security that gives them a strong sense of autonomy to explore their world providing a sense of independence and confidence begins to grow.
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